Violet Loriel DeCaro passed away peacefully at her home in Rye on April 24, 2017. She was 94.

Born February 1, 1923 in the Bronx, Violet was the daughter of Flora and John Lewis.

During World War II, she worked in the Brooklyn Navy Yard, and it was there that she met her future father-in-law, Nicholas DeCaro, who made sure to introduce Violet to his son, Thomas, when he returned to New York in 1945 after serving his country. Thomas and Violet were married on December 23, 1945.

The couple first settled in Mount Vernon, and then moved to Rye Beach Avenue in Rye in 1966.

Active in in the Rye community, Mrs. DeCaro was a member of American Yacht Club, the Ladies Auxiliary, the Friends of Rye Town Park, and Rye Seniors. She was also an accomplished seamstress and quilter. Never one to shy away from hard work, she could always be found with a paintbrush or power tool in hand, ready to tackle the next project around the house. She enjoyed walking in Rye Town Park across the street from her home and spending time at Rye Beach.

Her family lovingly described her as an impassioned woman, “who always told it like it was.” Her husband Tom said that it was her unwavering encouragement that pushed him through both engineering and law school when he wanted to quit.

Married for 72 wonderful years, Violet and Tom were quite the pair. They enjoyed traveling in their motor home in their later years. Fortunate to have their three children settle with their families in Rye (all within walking distance), they were active in their grandchildren’s lives and hosted weekly Sunday night dinners at their home.

In addition to her husband, the Honorable Thomas G. DeCaro, she is survived by her children: Tom (Faye) DeCaro of Greenwich, Lori DeCaro of Rye, and Phil (Leah) DeCaro of Rye; her sisters, Patricia Trumm of Rye and Connie Ryan of Kinderhook, N.Y.; and ten grandchildren; Kristin Rodriguez, Peter Junggren, Andrew Junggren, Stephen Burkly, Lauren DeCaro, Chelsea DeCaro, Carson DeCaro, Callie DeCaro, Molly DeCaro, and Thomas DeCaro. She was predeceased by her siblings, John Lewis, Charles Lewis, and Mary Brown.

A Memorial service will be held at a later date. 

Nancy Hamilton Brown passed away after a brief illness on April 24, 2017 in Chicago. She was 88.

Born on March 27, 1929, she grew up in White Plains, attended the Knox School for Girls in Cooperstown, and graduated from Pembroke College of Brown University with a degree in English Literature.

After college, she met and married the love of her life, Charles O. Brown Jr., in 1952. They settled in Rye, where Mrs. Brown was actively involved in the Apawamis Club, the Woman’s Club of Rye, and the TWIG organization of United Hospital. She was also an avid golfer, tennis, and paddle tennis.

With a close set of fun-loving friends, the Browns enjoyed a busy social life, attending and hosting cocktail parties, dinners, dances, and bridge club on a regular basis. Even their children looked forward to their annual New Year’s Eve party, which typically involved talent shows, dancing, and carousing into the wee hours.

A great organizer, Mrs. Brown handled the flowers for Rye Presbyterian Church for ten years, managing the donations, and choosing and arranging the flowers each Sunday. She had a green thumb and an eye for flower design.

Nancy Brown loved to sing, and joined the Sweet Adeline’s Rye Chapter, of which her sister Joan was the director. They formed a barbershop quartet called the Alley Cats and made a splash at national competitions. Admittedly, the Alley Cats gained more notoriety for their costumes than their singing – hot pants with cat ears and a tail, all trimmed in pink marabou – but the key was they had a great time.

In the mid-1970s, after her children entered high school, she became a real estate agent at Realty 3 in Rye, where she worked for over 30 years, until moving to Chicago to be closer to her son and his family. There, she was embraced by her daughter-in-law’s extended family and made new bridge-playing friends at her home in Smith Village.

Although a child of the Depression and a true believer in thriftiness, Nancy Brown was extraordinarily generous to her family, for which they will always be grateful.

She was pre-deceased by her beloved husband, Charlie, who died in 1992. She is survived by her three children and their spouses: Jeffrey O. Brown and Mary Kay Daughters of Stamford, Conn., Jean T. Brown and Ken Case of Huntington Bay, Long Island, and Charles O. Brown III and Mary Vogt Brown of Chicago; two grandchildren, Emma Jean Brown, and Owen Charles Brown of Chicago; her sister, Joan Damon, of Hastings-on-Hudson; six nieces and nephews; and an extended family of cousins with whom she remained close. She was grateful to see them all at a Thomson-clan family reunion just last year.

A memorial service was held in Chicago on April 30, and another will be held in late June in Rye. Please join us in celebrating the long life of Nancy Brown with the family toast: “Here’s to us. Who’s like us? Nae’body. (Thank God.)”

Bette Ann Murray passed away peacefully at her home in Westport, Conn., on April 22, 2017, with her family by her side. She was 86.

Born Brigid Ann McHale in Ballycastle, County Mayo, Ireland, on January 26, 1931, she immigrated to New York at the age of 19.

For thirty years, she and her husband Gerald Murray lived in Rye, where they raised their five children.

Tough as nails and smart as a whip, she worked hard and placed her trust in God,” said her family. She was a warm, genuine, and happy soul who took pleasure in simple things. She loved tag sales, maps, talking on the phone, reading, the color pink, Googling, offering others helpful hints, and history.

Mrs. Murray was predeceased by her husband Gerald, and her son, Raymond. She is survived by her son, Thomas L. Murray, and her three daughters: Maureen Murray, Patricia Johnson, and Eileen Murray and her husband Zachary Djimas; her adoring grandchildren: Thomas G. Murray, Paige and Aidan Medley, Shannon and William Johnson, Devon and Dylan Murray; her sister Julia Marley, and her sister-in-law Dorothy Murray.

She will be deeply missed and her spirit treasured forever in the hearts of her family.

A funeral mass was held April 28 at Church of the Assumption in Westport, Conn. Interment followed at Greenwood Union Cemetery in Rye, New York.

The family asks that, instead of a monetary donation, you kindly visit with or take your grandmother out for lunch. 

Robert Kniffin Henne, of Daytona Beach Shores, Florida, died on April 9, 2017, a few months short of his 100th birthday.

Born in Rye on October 17, 1917 in Rye, Bob was a star athlete at Rye High School. He played on the Baseball and Basketball teams, and was captain of the Football team. After graduating in 1936, he went to work in construction at Barber and Coccola of Rye.

During World War II, Mr. Henne served in the Navy and was stationed in Okinawa. He was returned to the U.S. on the hospital ship Hope after contracting malaria. 

Mr. Henne returned to work at Barber and Coccola, working his way up to vice-president. He retired in 1979. He was a volunteer fireman in the Rye Fire Department. 

In 1969, he moved to Westbrook, Connecticut, and to Florida in 1987.

Mr. Henne was predeceased by Julie Henne, his wife of 52 years, his daughter Claudia, and his brother Fred. He is survived by his son Robert “Hank” Kniffin Henne Jr. and his wife Jeanne, who live in Leesburg, Fla.

A service will be held at Christ’s Church in Rye on May 19 at 10 a.m. Donations in Bob Henne’s memory may be made to the charity of your choice.

Kathleen Wooster Elmblad, age 65, passed away peacefully on April 16, 2017 at St. Mary’s Hospital in Grand Junction, Colorado, while in the presence of family and close friends.   

Born on November 7, 1951, at Sloan Hospital for Women in New York City, she was the daughter of Robert B. and Kathleen (Spence) Wooster. Kathy, as she was called, was raised in Harrison, and attended Rye Country Day School.

A highlight of her youth was attending the 1965 Beatles’ concert at Shea Stadium; it exemplified a love for music that spanned and influenced her entire life, from the British invasion to supporting the local KAFM station in Grand Junction. 

In 1975, she moved west to the mountains of Colorado, which had been calling her for years. She settled in Steamboat Springs, working several jobs each day in order to enjoy the outdoors and all the activities the mountains offered, from hiking and camping, to skiing the snowy slopes. 

It was in Steamboat that she met her future husband, Bill Elmbad, and while Kathy had been active in the protests of the Vietnam War, she found a lifelong partner in this free-spirited Vietnam vet, who joked that she had started protesting too late. Together they moved first to Boston, and then to Juneau, Alaska to pursue Bill’s career as a fisheries biologist. 

They wed in 1981 and moved to Grand Junction in 1982, where they raised their family on a small farm with a horse she could ride, a dream of Kathy’s since her childhood. It was also where they became part of a large community of close friends in which their family thrived and that provided love and support through the years, something Kathy treasured deeply.  

Kathy, “Kath” to her friends, will be remembered for the spirit in her step and the sparkle in her voice. She was always planning and doing something, and her husband literally had to stay out of her way to avoid being bowled over as she ran around. Many of her girlfriends thought of her as a sister because of their close relationship. 

Her most fulfilling role was mother. She was an amazing and loving mother to her daughters, and a second mother to many of their friends. Kathy touched many lives through the years and will be deeply missed, but forever remembered by family and friends.

She is survived by her husband, Bill; her daughters, Denise (and her husband Rick), Christina (and her husband Rob), and Ashley; and three wonderful grandchildren. She was predeceased by her sister, Edith Read Wey, of Purchase, and her parents.

A memorial and celebration of life will be held at a later date. Donations in Kathy Elmblad’s memory may be made to KAFM (, 1310 Ute Avenue, Grand Junction, CO  81501.

Ruth Black Henchey passed away peacefully at her home in Rye Brook, with her family at her side, on April 5, 2017. She was 83. 

Born June 10, 1933 in Bronxville, Ruthie, as she was known, was the daughter of Ruth (Bailey) and Witherbee Black Jr. She grew up in a farmhouse on the Port Chester homestead of her great-grandmother, Sophie Yuengling Clausen. She attended the Mary Burnham School (now Stoneleigh-Burnham).

For over 20 years she was a popular sales manager at the Whitney Shop in Greenwich. She was an active member of the TWIG organization for over 40 years, and a longtime member of The Woman’s Club of Rye.

She was a fourth-generation member of Apawamis and Manursing Island clubs. At Apawamis, she was a devoted supporter and fan of the squash community, a stylish presence at tournaments and events, and an inspiration to young players working to improve. In addition to being an accomplished tennis and platform tennis player, she was a beloved fixture on the Manursing beach and courtside.

Children of the neighborhood in Rye where Ruthie raised her own family have described her as their “second mother.” 

Her first marriage to Dick Squires ended in divorce. In 1990, she married Curtice Bickford (“Bick”) Henchey, with whom she enjoyed amazing travels around the world and summer trailer camping in Maine, an activity she grew to love. The couple also spent many happy days together sailing Long Island Sound on their boat, <Sapphire>. Mr. Henchey died in 2007.

Mrs. Henchey is survived by her twin sister, Derith of Medford Lakes, N.J.; her children: Gary Squires (Susan) of Stamford, Cathleen Squires (John Recca) of Jamestown, R.I., and Pamela Reiss (David) of Fairfield; her stepchildren Hope Scully (Kevin) and Winfred Henchey; and ten grandchildren. Her sister Barbara Funk of Barre, Vt. predeceased her.

Family members said, “Ruthie was cherished by all for her beautiful smile, grace, and pink fishy kisses.”

A Memorial service will be celebrated May 5 at 11 a.m. at Christ’s Church in Rye. A reception will follow at Manursing Island Club.

Donations in Ruth Henchey’s memory may be made to Christ’s Church, 2 Rectory Street, Rye, NY 10580.

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